I was so excited when I saw the text show up on my phone that said "date night?" Ya'll know this single mother doesn't date much & if I do I have to plan it 2 weeks out. Some guys aren't willing to wait that long so...bye Felicia! The only day I had free was Wednesday, so we planned our date at a wine bar.
That same day I received a direct message from Dede (@dedegamez_) the founder of Adelante Mami (@adelantemami). She invited me to go to their meet up that very same day! I was so ecstatic! I had been following Adelante Mami for a while and I absolutely loved what they stood for and the movement they started. Women empowering women spoke to my soul. I knew 100% I wanted to be part of this movement. Without even thinking I said YES! Aye dios mio! I realized I had a date, I didn't want to cancel this date, I was so excited about it! Everything in me said go on this date, you like this guy Caya! You know how rare that is! I knew exactly what I had to do.
How many times do single mothers put everything else before themselves? How many times have we wanted to go to that workshop but maybe we gave it up for a night with the girls? Or maybe there was a personal growth event we wanted to go to but a dinner date came up. As single mothers our time is so pressed that we have to choose wisely in where we want to spend our time and energy. Sometimes we pick that drunken night because we don't want to let everyone down. Sometimes we go on that date because we think to ourselves "I rather have hope in finding someone & that workshop will come around again." We get sucked into this habit and find ourselves stuck down the road. I'm not saying it's wrong but when you want to work on your personal growth, a drunken night might not be the best path to take (just in that moment haha). Put yourself first ladies! Go to the workshops! Join the book clubs! There's a conference you're interested in? DO IT! You never know who you will meet at these meetup or events; it takes the small decision to show up to have a positive change in your life. Your friends will still be there for girl nights. The dates will keep on coming because you are a hot commodity! Put yourself first and go to the events! I promise you, you won't regret it.
I called him after work and before he even said anything I said I have to postpone our date, there is this meet up I want to go to for Adelante Mami and explained what it was...after I was done rambling and apologizing, he said "You should absolutely go! This is such a great opportunity for you! I'm not going anywhere, we can reschedule for another night." The next day I felt so great after going to the meeting, I knew I was meant to be part of this movement. I was so happy I put myself first; I was content with making a decision for myself and no one else. Thursday night I most definitely rescheduled my date with this patient, supportive man. When I got the "Yes" text to our rescheduled date, I just smiled, just gotta Caya_Te & Live.