I’ve been losing my little cabezita trying to figure out how the hell I am going to take Adelante Mami to the next level the past couple of months. I’m here to share my ridiculous journey with ya’ll. I’m a woman of full transparency so if you don’t like it- sorry not sorry.
Preparing for the conference was quite the experience. Any mamis in the group will tell you it was challenging but also very exciting! We received great feedback. It’s crazy to think that we were able to pull off so much in only 2 months. I think the most amazing part of it all is that we had a unique opportunity to give Latina women/men in the community, who are a little more lowkey, the recognition that they deserve. I am attracted to humble people and I love putting the spotlight on them. There’s always an amazing “aha” moment when you see the sparkle in their eyes and they realize just how incredible they are.
After the pretty décor, drinks, inspirational messages and amigas (also ene-migas) I was faced with some very important decisions to make.
- After that conference I couldn’t imagine doing anything else other than Adelante Mami. How the hell do I make this my full time job? Is this my calling?
- What the hell are we? A community organization, a business, both?
- Who is here for the right reason? Are these girls trippin or am I the problem?
- WHY AM I DOING ALL OF THIS?
I’m going to answer these questions and if you have any of your own, feel free to ask me in the comments below! It’s a shit show lol.
- I have never in my life felt a high the way I did working with my team and the day of the conference. I stood in the corner listening and people watching. I cried a lot in the shower that night. I also had a gut feeling that everything after that would fall apart, because that’s life que no? It’s a series of highs and lows and all for good reason. I couldn’t stand to be at work because every day I felt like an undervalued minion. I can’t be at a desk all day and not do anything meaningful. But a girl has bills to pay so aqui me quedo por mientras lol. As much as we would love to do everything for-the-free, no organization, movement or business can be sustainable without generating income. In order to feed my kids I had to think about what we were good at and how to integrate the business aspect. I will make another blog post next week with our process on starting a “business” if you will. I will include all the parts that I am still researching.
- What is Adelante Mami? We are a lifestyle movement that empowers Latina women to continue moving forward! Dope. Again, what are we? What do we do? After the conference I went backwards and created our vision, mission, values, and expectations for the group. I desperately wish I would have done that in the beginning before sharing my vision with anyone. It has helped solidify who we are, what we do and how we interact with one another. If you want to start anything, I don’t care if it’s a dog walking service, you need to build that foundation first. Lesson #1. There are 2 parts to Adelante Mami. We are community first. We are a business to help support the community second.
- I’m a very passive leader. I consider myself to be a facilitator. Nonetheless, someone must be a leader or else nothing will ever get done. I went to a Chase Business Conference for Leaders and I was reminded that what makes someone a leader is the ability to make decisions. Did girls leave Adelante Mami? Absolutely. I totally respect and agree with their decision. This is not for everyone. It took me a while to understand that it is not a reflection of myself or who I am as a leader, but that Adelante Mami in general wasn’t their cup of cafe. AND IT’S OK. If you are creating a group or a business, prepare your heart. People are going to come and go. I do think that a lot of fall outs are due to people not communicating honestly and openly. It builds and builds until the top flies off. A lot could have been avoided if we just said something to one another to check our perspective. We are here to grow and challenge ourselves. Not everyone is ready for that. “If someone leaves, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anyone that left”- TD JAKES IS MY MANS. Keep it movin’ mami!
- Because we are underrepresented. Women in our culture are so modest about our talents and accomplishments. We don’t like to promote ourselves, so Adelante Mami will help promote instead. I have a ton of talented amigas who are too scared to take the plunge. Scared to post the song, the picture, the blog post, the décor, the babies, the job, the degree, the business, etc. Our visibility has increased tremendously but we still have a lot of work to do! Doing this is worth the struggle to get there. (I am also posting this without Sabrina editing it and I feel like a rebel haha).